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Masks

2/16/2014

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The uniforms of our existence.  Everyday, we get up and go out into the world and we, hopefully, are making an effort to be as authentic as we can be.

But how successful are we?  We ALL have masks.  We all have a persona to some extent that we are forced into or even choose to don on a daily basis in order to somehow fit in, maintain order, get ahead, or even just cope with daily life amongst the mass of personalities and other drama that pulls us in one direction or the other.

I am thinking about this a lot lately due mostly to some inevitable changes and ensuing upheaval at work.  But it is worth it to ask ourselves in most portions of our lives what our masks allow us to contemplate and achieve as well as what they hold us back from and whether they interfere to some unacceptable extent with who we are.  Who we really are. 

I contemplate this stuff because I am afraid.  I'm afraid of losing myself within a role that I must play.  I'm afraid that the miniscule amount of empathy I have left in me for the human race is going to fall away as I struggle through uncharted territory and dealings with said mammals on more numerous occasions.  I only have so much room on my stupid meter and most days I already find it close to maxed out so what will it mean to add to it to the point of overflow?  I don't know and I'm afraid. 

I'm afraid of how it might overflow into my personal business and my mental health.  Anger management is sometimes an almost impossible task in my line of work.  Separating life into boxes is not something I'm good at.  I'm a global kind of "feeler" and as such, my moods tend to lend themselves to a universal language.  

The simple answer would be to be authentic and be done with it.  And it is true that being authentic is not difficult for me.  What is difficult is the world's reaction to my authentic nature.  I am, for instance, not exactly hiding in a closet as far as spiritual matters go but by the same token I do not advertise my beliefs.  I have found in life that most people are just as clueless about spirituality and religion as they are everything else so few even notice that I wear a small pentacle or that I mention a solstice in relation to the calendar, etc.  But, those subtle parts of my day to day dealings with people are masks within themselves.  I WANT to be open about who I am spiritually.  I WANT it to not matter.  But, reality is that it would be used against me at work.  Don't kid yourselves my friends, there IS no separation of church and state in terms of employment in the public sector.  The reality is that it matters. 

And on the subject of being authentic, what would most people's reaction be to the true nature of Gillian on other philosophical matters?  I can't even type them HERE for fear that someone, somehow, will stumble upon this world of mine, this haven that I have created with dear friends miles apart through blogging and podcasting...  They'll stumble upon it and rat me out, manipulate my beliefs (not only spiritual) and opinions as something not becoming of the role I hold or may hold. 

Am I being paranoid?  Am I being a coward?  Am I just still being a scared little girl laughed at and bullied because she believed that animals went to heaven? 

When we sell our souls it is often times not a grand affair like it is in the movies.  It isn't like Al Pacino offers us the sweet life in a high rise penthouse complete with every manner of every favorite sin.  It usually happens in a much more subtle way, little by little, until in our times of quiet contemplation we are faced with the truth.  And that truth is that we have somehow lost ours along the way.  We compromise in the name of "cooperation" in relationships, parenting, friendships, working.  We give here and there and little by little we sometimes find ourselves living the reality that someone else would have us live rather than our own by nature. 

I have, in my life, tried very, very hard to ensure this does not happen.  I've walked a tightrope and mostly saved myself from waking up in a panic one morning and not even knowing who the fuck I am and how I got to a place I did not want to be.  Mostly.  There have been slip-ups along the way.  Deviations from my true nature that cost me dearly in terms of time (which none of us have enough of) and the opportunity for true, genuine experience (which none of us have enough of either).  I am now at the point in my life where I am too old for any further deviations.  Even small ones.  My time is limited and I must live it accordingly. 

So, I have not answered any of my own fears or questions with this Sunday morning rambling.  I'm just still thinking... 










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Saturn link
2/18/2014 09:26:26 am

I think the daily living/work mask is the most insidious. We spend so much of our time in it, how can it not seep in?

Or vice versa and that's where it gets scary. That and when, as you said, (I'll paraphrase, potentially wrong, but what the hell), we want to rip the mask and just be, who we are, day in, day out, without fear of reprisal or consequences beyond bearing.

Which is all a way of saying you're not alone. Even up here in Canada where things are easier, it's still a concern. I'm starting my own business and I am very careful in the obvious places to keep those worlds separate. I still wear my pentacle, my hair is an outrageous shade of red, but I keep my paganness beyond the curtain, same place I keep the snakes. I am not ashamed of them, but I protect them and I protect my business by keeping them separate.

Maybe one day I'll get over my fear and I won't worry about it. Wouldn't that be lovely? To be able to trust enough in life and the society around us that we could be freely ourselves without fear that the cost would be too high?

Mind you, I think there's a difference between authenticity and blatantness. I am always a Witch, always a Priestess, I just don't necessarily use those words at work. Authentic, not blatant.

For the humanity part? Too many people are stupid. Try holding onto any good example? Maybe that's the test for you - seeing the god and goddess in all, seeing their potential, seeing them as reflections of the divine, some of whom just happen to need a serious kick in the ass to get over themselves?

Follow love. That's the best comment I can leave here. And a low-five, sister…I hear you.

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Gillian
2/21/2014 09:30:18 pm

LOL "low-five" sista :) I like that. Yes, some days it almost takes the breath out of me it is soooooooo...I dunno what word to use, exhausting and stifling. I have a similar situation going on as you with the business in that I keep being successful at work. LOL. Should be great right? But with each success a new weasel pops a head up. I feel like I'm wading in a pond of gators most days. LOL. Which one will bite, which one is sleeping????....

I like your idea of that you aren't hiding them (the snakes and your spirituality) you are protecting them. That I can wrap my mind around.

love IS all that matters in the end. At my meditation practice the instructor always says - LOVE is whatever it is to you. You have to find it for yourself and then pursue it daily...

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