It isn’t really a “grass is greener” philosophy but more of a gypsy worldview. And it is a fairly accurate description. I spend so much time “up in my head” and not always in a philosophical way. For me, my head IS where my heart is. My feelings are so quickly formulated into thoughts, contemplation, evaluation, processing, then conclusion. I don’t need to travel the world. I do need to travel where my soul takes me and that includes a good deal of meandering, exploring both the inside of me and the immediate outside world. I was reading an article yesterday, sort of a rambling diary about a woman and moving forward toward a life (or away from something in life) and I commented that I found a lot of it to be accurate in terms of feelings, struggle, life itself, making excuses, fear and moving on (in whatever capacity one is settling in life).
But, the problem was you got ¾ of the way through it and like most other articles I have seen I think it started to promise some kind of sudden awakening and "boom everything is better now" ending. I have issues with this. It is like (my BF and I were discussing this the other day) those articles on “embracing being single” that end up telling you how to meet the “true love of your life”. And then another article a bunch of us were discussing on FB yesterday regarding the approach of doing the mechanics of the Craft, sort of in “crash course” style, without getting to the heart of the matter of being a witch. And I am digressing I guess with examples but the point is that everything seems to be based around not only the quickest route to something, anything, whether it be magical practice, finding a mate or happiness.
And let’s discuss “happiness” for a moment. The truth is, in life, there are no fairytale endings. No matter who you are, where you are, who or what you leave, there is still, and always, struggle. No one decision is rarely a complete, life changing, all is better now scenario. There are often cons to the pro of any decision and deeming "happiness" the ultimate destination is really, really Disney inspired. Unless we have the capability of stopping time in a moment of bliss, complications will find us. That is the world we live in. I’m not so sure it ever wasn’t the world we live in, it is just that people settled more often than not. Life is a series of experiences. Hurt doesn’t go away because you leave one situation and enter another. Love is often found and more often than not, lost somewhere in the process of getting through each day, month, year. People rarely change in the same way or at the same rate but we do change, constantly IF we are growing and feeling and exploring our true selves. Fear, conformity, responsibility are all factors to varying degrees. Oceans are vast and sometimes, unfortunately, so are our feelings, emotions and ramifications of our choices throughout life.
As someone who has lived with atypical depression since childhood, (BTW can you believe there are so many types of depression? I mean what does that say about our world?), I am very used to my “feelings” sort of free-flowing on the daily. Is this why I find the rhetoric in some of these articles and the approach of “quick-fix” life these days so incredibly short-sighted? I mean, just this morning I have already experienced three distinct “moods” that could easily set the tone for my day and I’ve only been awake for two hours! My goal each morning is to grab the best mood I can and nurture it. It is exhausting, frankly, but again, life doesn’t freeze-frame for anyone. If it did we’d all stay at our favorite vacation spot indefinately!
There is this country song. I know, I know but bear with me because it just sums up why I think these sorts of articles are just way off base…
A guy walks into a bar, orders a drink
Sees a girl that catches his eye
Asks her if she wants another
They fall for each other and end up lovers
They laugh, cry, hold on tight, make it work for a little while
Then one night her taillights fade out into the dark
And a guy walks into a bar...
See? Life. That’s how it goes folks.
TWANG TWANG TWANG